5 Lessons from Adolescence from a Clinical Psychologist’s Perspective

Adolescence. A Mini TV Series that aired on 13th March 2025 sparked numerous conversations on some of the most pressing issues we face today. I joined in on the buzz and gave the show a watch yesterday during my Raya break. Without giving you too many spoilers, here are 5 key lessons I gathered from the series:

1. The Harsh Reality of Cyberbullying

Whether we want to admit it or not, cyberbullying is more prevalent than we think. Our current generation, with its heavy reliance on social media, is incredibly vulnerable. The weight of online scrutiny can have a profound impact on mental health. This serves as a reminder that, amidst our busy routines, we must take the time to engage with our children and teens about their online experiences. A simple conversation about their day could provide invaluable support in navigating this digital world.

2. The Power of Words

In today’s discourse, terms like feminism and masculinity are being reshaped. While both ideologies come from well-intentioned places, some have taken on toxic nuances of exclusion. It’s essential to discern the meanings and implications of these words before adopting them into our vocabulary. Our words carry immense power—they can uplift or break someone. Regardless of gender, it is crucial that we honor each other’s strengths and vulnerabilities. Let’s take responsibility for the language we choose, as it can either build bridges or walls.

3. Discern Your Social Media Content

On average, we spend hours each day scrolling through social media, absorbing content that shapes the way we view ourselves and others. Given the power of algorithms, it’s no surprise that we’re fed content tailored to our every desire. However, not all content is healthy. From explicit images to violence, the constant influx of negativity can take a toll on our mental well-being. It’s important to step away from social media when we can and be intentional about what we engage with. Ask yourself: Is this content helping or harming me?

4. Therapists Are Humans Too

A therapist's role is to remain objective, yet we are not immune to emotions. Although we are trained to separate our personal feelings from our professional judgment, there are moments when we feel overwhelmed by the weight of our clients' struggles. As a clinical psychologist, there are moments when I feel deeply for my clients, especially when faced with their struggles. I’ve found that, on occasion, breaking the "third screen" and offering a more authentic perspective can actually strengthen the therapeutic bond. While it’s not always conventional, allowing a bit of vulnerability in the right moments can help build trust and create a more genuine connection with clients.

5. The Weight Parents Carry

When a child is facing difficulties, we often focus on the child’s issues and how to fix them. However, it’s important to remember that children are part of a larger system: their family. Parents often carry an emotional burden when their children suffer, feeling guilty or inadequate in their parenting. Seeing a child struggle is heartbreaking for any parent. The next time someone shares concerns about their child, take a moment to acknowledge their emotions as parents as well. Sometimes, offering a little empathy for the parent can mean the world to them.

If you or someone you know has experienced cyberbullying or is struggling with any of the challenges mentioned above, remember you're not alone.

Mind Wave is here to offer support. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help.

Author: Vera Pillai, Licensed Clinical Psychologist

• B.Psy.(Hons), M.Clin.Psy. (CP1-0315)

• Registered Malaysian Healthcare Practitioner (MAHPC(CP)00176)

• Clinical Psychologist at Columbia Asia Hospital Miri & Bintulu

• Advisor of OIKOS Centre Miri (Persatuan Kabajikan Sokongan Keluarga OKU)

• HRDC Certified Trainer (Trainer ID: 10821)